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My New Resolution

posted on: Friday, December 30th, 2011

So… I was watching this documentary on this school that believes that in order to be politically correct and “fair,” physically capable children should not jump rope with a rope, play tag, or keep score in sports (among other things). WHAT?! It’s a competitive world out there. There are so many people scratching and clawing to make it to the top…actually… just to get into the heap! Why are we trying to raise a group of people that don’t understand hard work or failure? Don’t our best lessons come from our failures and not our successes? Trials produce perseverance, and perseverance produces character (to steal a quote from the Good Book). To achieve greatness in anything, we have to be willing to put ourselves out there, try, fail, pick ourselves up, and try again! That in itself is success, isn’t it? I want our son to be a gracious, empathetic winner. He’s not going to be the best at everything, so he needs to learn how to lose. And when he does lose, even if it hurts, he needs to be just as gracious. How can you ever learn to jump rope if you DON’T HAVE A ROPE!
‘Sorry I’m so mad about this, but the documentary got me.
As we go into this New Year, there are many things that I want to accomplish. So, I’m tackling it all head first, and I look forward to the adversities and the challenges (even if I’m shaking all the way!). Let’s not allow the fear of failure to change our course or slow us down. NOT FOR A SECOND! I’m giving myself permission to fail. Because then I’m going to get up and come back better than EVER! This is what I wish for you!

12 responses to “My New Resolution”

  1. Tonya Tate says:

    I love your perspective on this! I absolutely agree with what you so eloquently stated. I also want my daughter to learn just as much when she falls as she does when she is ” successful”. As a teacher, I hope the idea of noncompetitive sports, activities, etc. does not become a trend.

  2. Adaora says:

    I totally agree with you Heather. This couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve been quite scared to venture into unkown grounds all because I am afraid to fail. I only recently decided to take a plunge into the unkown and your new year resolution mirrors my resolve to give things a go and graciuosly recover if it fails ( I hope not though:)… x

  3. Lindsay says:

    I absolutely agree with you. You learn so much from trials and hardships – it’s important to fail, because if you don’t, how will you ever know what success is?

    I stumbled upon your website because I woke up with a song from Aida in my head and nostalgically searched for the youtube video of it. Aida is my all-time favorite Broadway show – my first one to see when I was 14 visiting NYC with my family. We have listened to the CD countless times as a family, and now that I am grown up and have moved away, it brings me back to a special time in my childhood.

    As you go into your New Year, I just wanted to encourage you with the thought that your music leaves lasting memories for people all over. Even just a random girl from Texas (Seattle now). :) Thank you for sharing your incredible talent with the world! Happy New Year.


  4. Matthew says:

    As with Lindsay I stumbled across your site this morning because I woke up up with your song “In my mind” in my head. I absolutely love fell in love with the song the first time I heard it and the video was so emotionally, captivating. Failure is the road to success, without it we would never know what success is. As parents we have a natural tendency to protect our children almost to a fault. As hard as it may be, we have to let them fall down sometimes, so they can learn to pick themselves up again. Building character as well as strong, capable, independent adults is the ultimate goal. I’m glad to see you are still making music Heather, and you have an amazing gift. Thank you for sharing it with the world and touching so many of us on an emotional level.


  5. Gordon says:

     “Stealing” another quote from the Good Book – And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who[a] have been called according to his purpose. This includes our failures – ultimately in His time and for His purpose it works for our good! AMEN

    Keep up the good work Heather!

  6. M says:

    Don’t know which documentary you watched but there is always many ways of doing things. I can understand anyone wanting their child to be “a winner” but if society’s goal is to produce winners and loosers isn’t that a society that is based on inequality? There’s been a lot of hoobla of our schools in the press in North-America lately. And I ain’t saying our way is the only possible way of doing things but maybe its worth to take a look to get new ideas. ( Every child is important. And no child is alone.

    Best M.

  7. Dina says:

    Saved, I really like your site! :)

  8. Kaijai says:

    Thought of you today and found your website. All the best with you and your career.

  9. James says:

    I came across your music 5 years ago while living in Cape Town, South Africa. Your voice simply blew me away. I caught your DC performance with Andrea Bocelli and your rendition of Somewhere over the Rainbow was simply mesmerizing! You sang with so much passion and feeling, it simply touched something deep in my soul. Yes…why can’t I! Totally inspiring.
    Wishing you and your family all the best in 2012….and give us more!!

  10. David says:

    I am such a fan. I also run a homeless shelter and when I hear you sing I think it would be great for our families to hear you. can’t wait to hear the new album.

  11. NubBuddyNus says:

    Hello! Just want to say thank you for this interesting article! =) Peace, Joy.

  12. Georgia says:

    Heather, just read some of your blogs. They are unliftng. You should write a book with daily thoughts. God bless you and your beautiful family.

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